Succesverhaal Dawn & Derek
Zij was na een huwelijk van 20 jaar nu 5 jaar alleen. Hij al ruim 8 jaar single. Datingapps werkten niet. De stap naar een matchingbureau was spannend, maar “if you don’t try, you’ll never know.” Ze probeerden niet te hoge verwachtingen te hebben. Alleen openstaan om mensen te ontmoeten en te leren kennen. Die instelling heeft gewerkt. Dit is het verhaal van Dawn en Derek.
* Omdat Dawn van oorsprong Amerikaanse is, zijn de antwoorden in het Engels.
We have a lot of fun together. Just being together is enough.
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Voorstellen:
Eerste indruk:
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Teken van liefde:
Toekomst:
49 | 51
gescheiden | single
een serieuze relatie
7 | 1
he is really easy to talk to | “Wow”
have a lot of fun together
asked as my girlfriend – she said yes
no specific plans, but we’re long-term partners
Ervaring matchmaking
Natuurlijk twijfelden ze over hun inschrijving. Dawn las al ruim een jaar over PartnerSelect voordat ze de stap zette. Nooit had ze verwacht dat ze binnen één maand haar eerste en meteen ook laatste match zou ontmoeten. Na vier teleurstellende contacten verloor Derek daarentegen bijna de hoop. Gelukkig was daar Dawn. “She ticked all the boxes”.
Het interview
Kunnen jullie iets vertellen over jullie relatieverleden en waarom jullie kozen voor PartnerSelect?
Dawn: I was married almost 20 years, divorced for 5, and wanted to find a partner, but did not want to use a dating app. I really liked the idea of a matchmaker who met and vetted all possible contacts and thought that a paid service would also mean that people I met would be serious about a long-term relationship.
I really liked the idea of a matchmaker who met and vetted all possible contacts.
Derek: I had some relationships in the past but was single for more than eight years. I tried some dating sites, but that didn’t work as I wanted, so I tried something different.
Waren er twijfels over het inschakelen van een bemiddelingsbureau?
Dawn: It took me more than a year between finding PartnerSelect and registering. After 25 years of not dating, it was a big step. I tried not to have high expectations, but to be open to meeting people and learning about them.
Derek: Of course, but if you don’t try, then you won’t know. I did know that dating apps didn’t work. My expectation was to meet somebody.
It took me more than a year between finding PartnerSelect and registering.
Hoe was het intakegesprek? En het contact met de matchmaker?
Dawn: A very positive experience for me. The list of questions was more of a conversation than an interview, and by the end, I felt like my matchmaker had a good sense of who I was and would have a good sense for a possible match.
Derek: I think it was really good. After talking with the matchmaker, I had more faith in the process because they took their time and asked a lot of questions.
Hoe waren de eerste voorstellen?
Dawn: Derek was my first match in the same month I registered, and that was all I needed. I was still happy to have chosen the year-long package because it gave me the sense that I didn’t need to rush.
I started to doubt if it was going to work.
Derek: The first matches in the first four months weren’t that good for me, so I started to doubt if it was going to work.
Wat viel op bij het lezen van elkaars persoonsbeschrijving?
Dawn: I liked the process of getting an email, reading the profile, and then seeing the picture. Derek’s profile was positive and I was curious to learn more.
Derek: I think I just like the sound of it — ticked all the boxes.
Hoe verliep het eerste contact en de eerste ontmoeting?
Dawn: We app’d each other very quickly and scheduled time to call. I asked for a video call because I wanted to see his face while talking. It was really easy to talk. When we met, I was nervous but tried to focus on get to know him. Our first meeting went better than I thought it would go.
When I first saw Dawn, I thought, "Wow."
Derek: First we called and it was a really nice conversation for almost an hour. At the end of it we picked a date to meet. When I first saw Dawn, I thought, “Wow.”
Op welke punten denken jullie dat jullie gematcht zijn?
Dawn: As we learned more about each other, we found many more points of similarity than difference. We had a lot of long conversations about core beliefs and those were often very similar.
Our lifestyles are different, but a lot of things we think alike.
Derek: I don’t know. I had some requirements (no small kids, someone who worked) and I think we think alike about a lot of things. Our lifestyles are different, but a lot of things we think alike and like a lot of the same things (except all the walking).
Hoelang zijn jullie samen? Was er een moment waarop het officieel werd?
Dawn: It will be a year in March.
Derek: After about five or six weeks, I asked Dawn if I could call her my girlfriend and she said yes.
Wat zijn hoogtepunten van ervaringen die jullie samen hebben meegemaakt?
Dawn: I love hiking and we kissed for the first time on a trail. And sailing with Derek in the summer was really, really fun. I also really enjoyed Christmas with Derek’s family.
Derek: Sailing in June and July was a highlight.
Wat vinden jullie het leukst aan elkaar?
Dawn: Derek is a big romantic. He really listens and does things to make me happy. And he’s incredibly handy and has a great sense of humor.
Derek: We have a lot of fun together. Just being together is enough. We have fun when we go out, when we stay in, and when we do projects together.
Hebben jullie toekomstplannen?
Dawn: Not specific plans, but Derek’s my long-term partner.
Derek: Yes, that’s the same for me.
Zouden jullie PartnerSelect aanraden?
Dawn: I’ve recommended PartnerSelect to friends. I think you need to know yourself well and be open to learning to know who someone really is and not just if they fit into the pattern of what you think you want.
Derek: Yes, I’d recommend it if someone’s serious about finding someone. Neither of us did any of the singles activities.
You need to be open to learning to know who someone really is and not just if they fit into the pattern of what you think you want.
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